Yesterday I had my first real day at work since April 2014, and it was good to be doing something different.
When I told Little Bear I would be working he found it hilarious. Every time I mentioned it he laughed and said, “that’s funny!”…well there’s something to fill you with confidence.
Turns out though that he didn’t find it that funny at all. When we sat down for dinner, prawn risotto (one of his favourites), he cried and sat on the sofa saying he didn’t want to eat anything. After a cuddle and daddy pretending to eat his prawns he was giggling and sat back at the table. We asked him if he was ok and that’s when the truth came out. He was worried that me going to work would be the same as daddy going to work – all day, every day, Monday to Friday.
I reassured him that only Monday afternoons would change for him, that I would be doing all the other playgroup drops offs and pick ups, that we would still have our special Friday lunches out. It must be strange for him, a big change, but it will benefit us all.
For me? It was strange not being the one to take him to gymnastics, strange not being the one to pick him up from playgroup. But, it was nice getting home just after 4 o’clock and sitting together doing a magazine and then making dinner together, rather than him craving the television and me begging for a bit of peace!
Welcome to our new routine!
So obviously I am aware of the passing of time and of the fact that Little Bear is growing up fast, but last night I made a few eBay listings that really brought it home.
For his first birthday he got a Wheely Bug which was lovingly ridden (and crashed) around the house endlessly for a while. Then the novelty wore off but it was still visited from time to time, even when he was clearly too big for it. And so, it’s now on eBay.
The second thing to be listed was his balance bike. After getting a pedal bike for his birthday this has sat forlornly in the corner gathering dust. He loved riding this, he used to go so fast and I think it has really helped his balance to develop ready for a real bike – yesterday he did his first few metres cycling on his own, daddy’s back is hoping we’ve had a break through!
So there they are, two toddler wheeled toys that are now about to leave the house for good. And left behind are the memories and the fast growing three year old who is moving on to bigger and more independent pursuits!
The summer holidays are over and we survived it! I had my doubts 10 days in but by week 3 we had found a happy balance, and from then on the holidays flowed quite smoothly.
I found that the recipe to success was just letting go a bit, and just relaxing more. It’s not always that easy but it’s worth it!
I have learnt that you really have to pick your battles. Does it really matter if he has a snack an hour after breakfast? Does it matter if he watches a bit more television than I like when outside is wet and miserable? Does it matter if he walks around a shop not holding my hand? Actually, this one makes it much easier and actually made him happier in Next. He actually reigns himself in very well when I let him loose! Does it matter if he’s naked at three o’clock in the afternoon??
For Little Bear, he’s learnt to occupy himself a bit more (mainly with Lego), he’s learnt to write more letters, draw people, rhyme words. He’s learnt to get up by himself for a wee at 6 o’clock without calling out to me – although he’s far from quiet so it doesn’t really change much. But arguably the most important thing is that he’s learnt most of the words to “Let it Go” and pretty much every song from “Moana”.
And today he went back to playgroup. He was disappointed it wasn’t school but happy to back nonetheless. He ran nearly the whole way, had big smiles for his teachers, and settled in as if we’ve never been away!
Our final year before school has officially begun!