“I’m a Ghost!”

“I’m a Ghost!”

Living with a three year old means we have our fair share of ups and downs, and there are those times when we’re meant to be serious but are holding back the laughter…such an episode happened yesterday.

Mid-afternoon Little Bear ran off to his room after being offended by me asking him to keep the pen off the table and on the paper (so unreasonable aren’t I?).  His exit was swiftly followed by a calamitous crash…but no tears, so I guessed it wasn’t an emergency.  I went, tentatively, to investigate.  A box of cars and a box of food were sprawled across his bedroom.

I, fairly, asked him to be a bit more careful when getting boxes out and could he tidy up a bit and then I would help him.  I returned to the kitchen and left him to tidy.

Or so I thought.

All was quiet.  Too quiet for things to be being hurled into toy boxes.  So I investigated…and saw a ghost.  To be precise, a Little Bear ghost.  Ok, it wasn’t a ghost, it was Little Bear covered in my duvet doing everything he could to avoid tidying.

Only a child could hear, “Please tidy your room”, and interpret it as “Make more mess! Go take everything off my bed! Please please pretend to be a ghost, it would really complete my day”.  Ahhh well, I guess we’ll just clear it up “together” then!

Family Day

Family Day

Yesterday we had one those rare days where it was just the three of us together all day.  We gave Little Bear the choice of what to do but after he said “just stay at home” we took the situation into our own hands!

After a lovely breakfast we did his latest magazine and checked the growth of our caterpillars (we’ve got one of those “grow your own butterfly” kits) before getting dressed and heading out.

We visited a local nature reserve, Woods Mill, and it was brilliant.  Little Bear had a map and a stick – he was in his element! We spotted dragonflies, beetles, worms, and pond skaters, and a butterfly even landed on Little Bear’s chin.

We spent the afternoon at home, checking in with the caterpillars at regular intervals!  We made a Pirate Cove and had some swashbuckling pirate adventures, then Little Bear helped to cut the vegetables for dinner.

It wasn’t a particularly exciting day, nothing particularly funny happened, but it was pretty close to perfect.  Everyone liked each other, everyone was happy, and everyone got lots of cuddles – it was one of those days you dream of having but seldom achieve!

Go to sleep Little Bear!

Go to sleep Little Bear!

So far this evening Little Bear has called out for a drink, a wee, and a kiss…I’m sensing some delaying tactics!  This type of demand I usually refuse after the first, especially the toilet trip, he never needs to go more than once before bed, it’s just a game.  But the cry that I always answer, the most recent addition to his repertoire, is, for example, “Mummy, frog begins with f”…yes it does darling, and how can I ignore your cleverness, but at the same time….GO TO SLEEP!!!

So far tonight we have had:

C is for camel; F is for frog; G is for goat; T is for tiger; W is for whale.

Maybe I need to move the alphabet poster?!  Maybe he needs to close his eyes?!

Pirate Day!

Pirate Day!

Today has been all about Pirates for Little Bear.  He decided to get his pirate ships out this morning, they sailed to faraway islands and found treasure, and then our sofa became the pirate ship and we had to dodge sharks and swim with dolphins before falling in “muddy green slime”…yuck!  And then the telescope broke and that ended that game, and got me searching Amazon!

But this pirate play had got me thinking.  I wanted to make some healthy snacks for Little Bear and as he loves pirates maybe there was a way to incorporate this.  I came across a recipe for spinach muffins and the mixture looked exactly like muddy green slime!  So at 9 o’clock this morning we started to bake!

Perfect colour for a cake, don’t you agree?

Little Bear loves cooking and helped to measure, pour, blitz, and mix.  Then we put them in the oven and went to get dressed.  The outcome was really tasty, although not quite as green as I expected, and Little Bear seemed to agree wanting a second before the crumbs from the first had been wiped away!

Taste Test!

We then headed out to the park, with our pirate scooter helmet on and then played on all the equipment as if it was a big pirate ship!  After a pirate feast (tuna sandwich and grapes) we headed to the beach to throw stones and look for boats.  But then Little Bear spotted something, one of the houses had a pirate flag outside and he was desperate to visit it.  He scooted up to it and quietly asked if this was where the pirates lived, of course I told him that they did and I think that made his day – which was just as well because by this stage my toes and nose were frozen solid and any hint of disappointment would not have been well received!

Lovely weather for pirate spotting ❄️

Today really has been one of those days you dream of having, a day when you genuinely love the company of each other and have fun together.  We’ve baked, played outside for hours despite the cold, we’ve done some sticking, talked about our day over a hot chocolate, and had some lovely time playing. 

Too often there is a pressure to fill the day with groups and classes, and often getting out the house on time causes the first tensions of the day.  Today, we left ourselves free of these restraints and have just gone with our own ideas and timings…and what a great day it’s been.

Anyway, best go and hang the washing out now…we’ll, something had to ruin the bliss didn’t it?!

Achieving Hygge with a Todddler

Achieving Hygge with a Todddler

Hygge is the lifestyle craze that we’re adopting from our Danish friends, and it’s fast becoming a fashionable way to cosy up, gain winter pounds, and not feel guilty about it.  It’s so ingrained in Danish culture that the tourism website devotes a whole page to it.  Read it here if you fancy knowing more – What is Hygge?

But how can we achieve this blissful, snug, wintery heaven with a frantic 2 and a half year old in tow??  Well, firstly you need to wear them out!  Yesterday I opted for a combination of Rhyme Time, a walk round the shops, swimming lesson, lunch with nanny, and then a play date in the park before heading home in the dusky glow of an autumnal evening accompanied with everything we needed to make a cake.

Snug at home we turned the lights on and put some music on. We then baked cakes which kept him calm and entertained, and with the oven glowing it made everything even cosier.

Little Bear then snuggled on the sofa with a blanket whilst we read stories, before helping to prepare a hearty, warming chilli for dinner.

Look at those colours!

After dinner we had cake for pudding, obviously!  Then sat together to play games as darkness enveloped the outside world.

Ok, so it wasn’t candles and hot chocolate with a box set and my husband, but cakes, chilli, and board games pretty much encompassed Hygge for me!

I Bought a Bag

I Bought a Bag

I know, I know, it’s not exactly earth shattering news…except, it kind of is!  Aside from changing bags, children’s rucksacks, suitcases, and the odd clutch, I haven’t bought myself a new handbag for years.

You know how it goes, baby comes along so you buy a fancy changing bag with more pouches and pockets than a…a thing with lots of pouches and pockets, and this becomes your life bag since, well, you aren’t going anywhere without baby for a while are you?  Then the bottles stopped, I needed less baby crap, and I went back to my old faithful favourite bag…which ultimately ended up resembling a thin strip of material useful for nothing!

Clutch bags arrived in their plenty for nights out – more bags than nights if truth be told, and I usually use the same one.  A rucksack arrived for spare clothes when potty training started.  And I remained big bagless.

So this week I took the plunge and bought myself a nice big bag.  The type that you can loose stuff in for years on end, that you only remember about when it goes through an airport scanner and you play “guess the object”, stuff that comes out covered in fluff of a colour you’ve never owned.

And yet, I’m finding my bag laying empty.  I shove my purse in Little Bear’s rucksack, I’m not going to take two bags out with me.  And when I do use it, I’m not sure I’ll be able to hoard in the old way…or perhaps that’s wishful thinking, it will probably be bursting at the seams by Christmas.

But here is my point, yes there is one I promise, my point is that two and a half years into motherhood, I feel ready to own my own bag again.  Preschool and football are giving me time to myself in a way I’ve not had for a while, he needs less and less stuff, and…here’s the big one, I’m going away for a weekend soon without Little Bear (🎺🤗) and pockets/clutch bags just won’t cut it for that!

Too Grown Up

Too Grown Up

Yesterday we had a great day out at the farm with a big group of friends and Little Bear had a brilliant day.  I also had a great time but I realised that my baby is well and truly a grown up boy!!

He went on two merry-go-round rides by himself, he came down a really high slide, he steered the bumper boats, went on a ride round the woods on his own, rode a horse, danced on stage, and walked down to take part in an animal show whilst I watched on bursting with pride.

But is this confidence the result of nature or nurture?  Before I had Little Bear, I had imagined him being timid and introvert, based purely on how my husband and I both were as young children.  Now, we’re both fairly confident and outgoing, and it’s those traits that Little Bear is showing rather than following in our childhood footsteps.  And whilst he is showing confidence he isn’t bolshy or overly loud, and he definitely still has a quiet and sensitive side!

Either way, whatever his personality, nature or nurture, my baby is well and truly becoming a fully fledged boy!